Finding love can often feel like an elusive pursuit, as we navigate the complexities of relationships and attachment. It seems paradoxical that in a world with seemingly endless options for connection, genuine and lasting love can be so hard to find. The quest for healthy relationships requires us to confront our own insecurities and fears of inadequacy, questioning whether we are too defective to be loved. However, the first step to finding love lies in recognizing that we are deserving of it and capable of forming meaningful connections. In today's society, therapy has become increasingly popular as people seek guidance in self-exploration and understanding, engaging in exercises to unearth their true selves. This process helps individuals identify what they truly need in a partner and discern the person who fits for them amidst the overwhelming paradox of choice. It's important to challenge the notion of finding the "right" or "perfect" person, understanding that flaws and imperfections are inherent in all relationships. When issues inevitably arise, it's crucial to approach them with empathy and communication, viewing negatives as opportunities for growth rather than reasons to retreat. By embracing both our negative and true selves, we pave the way for authentic connections and fulfilling relationships.

Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and a multi-award-winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 20 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.

He has published several articles and books in these areas and is the author of:

The BPD Card Deck: 50 Ways to Balance Emotions and Live Well with Borderline Personality Disorder. Available at: www.shorturl.at/jBHJV

Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance. Available at:
https://rb.gy/hdyqyy

Antisocial, Narcissistic, and Borderline Personality Disorders: A New Conceptualization of Development, Reinforcement, Expression, and Treatment. Available at: https://tinyurl.com/2anv8dww

The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook: An Integrative Program to Understand and Manage Your BPD. Available at: https://goo.gl/LQEgy1

Antisocial, Borderline, Narcissistic and Histrionic Workbook: Treatment Strategies for Cluster B Personality Disorders (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Gold Award Winner): https://goo.gl/BLRkFy

Narcissistic Personality Disorder Toolbox: 55 Practical Treatment Techniques for Clients, Their Parents & Their Children (IPBA Benjamin Franklin Silver Award Winner):: https://goo.gl/sZYhym

Dr. Fox has given numerous workshops and seminars on ethics and personality disorders, personality disorders and crime, treatment solutions for treating clients along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum, emotional intelligence, managing mental health within the prison system, and others. Dr. Fox maintains a website of various treatment interventions focused on working with and attenuating the symptomatology related to individuals along the antisocial, borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality spectrum (www.drdfox.com).

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00:00 Introduction
00:46 Finding love and attachment
01:14 How do you find healthy relationships?
01:49 Too defective to be loved?
02:20 First step to finding love
02:35 Why therapy is more popular now
03:02 Self exploration exercise
04:09 Finding the person who fits for you
04:23 Paradox of choice
05:45 Are they “right” to “perfect”
06:21 When issues arise
07:36 How to look at negatives
09:00 Your negative and true self