In this video I explain how to use reparent yourself if you have been the family scapegoat or subject to childhood abuse or neglect. Reparenting is a procedure form the school of psychotherapy called transactional analysis or TA. In the reparenting process you are restructuring your Parent ego state. This is the part of your personality that thinks, feels and behaves in ways copied from your parents or parent figures.The process of self-reparenting also involves becoming aware of the needs and wants of your Child ego state, this is your inner child. This is the part of the self that thinks feels and behaves as you did when you were a child. During the self- reparenting journey you will also need to tune into your Adult ego state. When you are in you are logical, rational and concerned with facts and data.

🔵 CHAPTERS

0:00 Introducing John
2:01 Introducing reparenting theory
3:48 Step one of reparenting
5:11 Step two of reparenting
6:24 Step three of reparenting

🔵 THE THREE STEPS TO REPARENTING

(1) The first step is to get a piece of paper and draw a circle to represent your Parent ego state. Subdivide the circle with a vertical line and jot down the messages you received from each parent or parent figure.

(2) It’s impossible to reparent yourself if you don’t know what your Child ego state needs and its impossible to identify what type of parenting your Child needs if you don’t know what good parenting looks like. This stage of the self reparenting process involves observing how real parents, parent their children. You might identify a good parent in a book, TV series or a film. Perhaps you have a friend who you believe is a good parent. Once you have identified a good parent notice how they speak to their child and how they behave. On a piece of paper write down your observations of what makes a good parent.

(3) Practice the qualities on your good parent list. This is actually the hardest part of self-reparenting because you were never taught these skills.

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🔵 ABOUT TERESA LEWIS

Teresa Lewis is the founder and Director of Lewis Psychology and a Senior Accredited psychotherapist with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (MBACP Snr. Accred). Qualified in 1995, Teresa has been providing counselling and psychotherapy treatment for nearly 30 years. Teresa holds a masters degree in counselling and psychotherapy and is a qualified EMDR Practitioner having completed training accredited with EMDR Europe. Teresa is also a qualified adult educator and an accredited Mindfulness teacher As a recognised expert in her field Teresa is frequently asked to conduct editorial reviews and endorse counselling and psychotherapy books for international publishing houses.

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